A BURDEN TOO BIG TO BEAR

   It’s been over two months since I wrote my last blog article – and during that time, I’ve had several doctor’s appointments, as well as going on vacation twice.  And I’ve done some stuff on the Internet during that time span.  But those aren’t the subjects of the following article – as you’ll understand why after reading this.

   In a few days, my mother turns 86 years old.  Over a year ago, my mother’s life dramatically changed – and as a result of that, so did those of my family’s.  But then, when you have a loved one who’s in her mid-eighties whose life becomes more difficult as both old age and declining health catch up with him or her, you realize that it’s a situation that’s more or less inevitable, but never completely prepared for.  My family’s experienced this kind of situation before – and anyone reading this who has an aging relative can probably understand what I’m trying to get at.

   In the case of my mother, it was a number of factors that resulted in her current situation – including the fact that she could no longer drive a car, partly to avoid paying high auto insurance rates, a situation not unfamiliar to families with elderly parents whose usefulness starts to diminish as they get older, thus limiting not only what they can do, but what they used to do when they were younger.  And it’s those same factors that have put somewhat of an emotional and mental strain on my mother – which is more heartbreaking than all of the movie and TV melodramas put together.  It’s also the kind of burden that nobody wants, but which many of us are already stuck with – and one that’ll only increase as things get even worse for those who raised us as well as set a positive example for not only their families and friends, but their communities as well.  And then, our families come to realize that the problems that they face in regards to their aging parents aren’t unique – or isolated.

   What awaits not only my mother, but also my family, in the future remains a mystery.  All we know right now is the personal burden that we must bear can’t be avoided or ignored, no matter how painful and complicated it is – as well as the fact that we’re not the only ones experiencing those same problems and challenges.  We can only move forward, unaware of what awaits us, yet face the future with the courage and common sense necessary to face – and hopefully overcome – even the most difficult of situations.  And those are the kind of resources that are far more important and effective than even today’s technology.

   John Lavernoich is the author of the novels Code Name: Chameleons (published by iUniverse/Writers Club Press) and Chameleons To The Rescue (published by Lulu Books/Highroad Books), and the recently published short story e-book collection Tales Of The Psychiatrist (published by Booktango), as well as various non-fiction articles and short stories that have been published in print and on the Internet. To learn more about Mr. Lavernoich and his writing achievements, please visit his official website (https://sites.google.com/site/johnlav65), as well as his pages on Facebook (http://www.facebook.com/john.lavernoich?ref=name), MySpace (http://www.myspace.com/jlavernoich), Twitter (http://twitter.com/JLav65), and WordPress (https://johnlav.wordpress.com). Mr. Lavernoich also maintains his own video channel on YouTube‘s website (http://www.youtube.com/user/JLav65?feature=mhsn), his own Author Spotlight page on Lulu Books‘ website (http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/Highroad), his own Profile Page on Amazon Studios‘ website (http://studios.amazon.com/users/59488), and his Chameleons, Inc. and Pictures Shop websites via Google Sites (Chameleons, Inc. website: https://sites.google.com/site/chaminc2002; Pictures Shop website: https://sites.google.com/site/picturesshop13).

©2013 John Lavernoich.

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About johnlav

I've written five published novels -- including the first two in the CHAMELEONS, INC. book series -- as well as various non-fiction articles and short stories that have been published in both print and on the Internet.
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