Today is Father’s Day – a day belonging to all fathers throughout the world. Of course, Father’s Day for a good number of people can be tinged with sadness, especially if their fathers are dealing with the ravages associated with old age and declining health or are no longer around to remain part of their families and friends’ lives – which was, in part, enforced by the death of media personality Casey Kasem today, part of a pop culture era already fading into history, as well as a generation who helped shape the entertainment industry of the past sixty to seventy years.
As for what happened thirty years, when my family celebrated Father’s Day – I was about to graduate from high school, and my late father, Alphonse P. Lavernoich, was wrapping up another year teaching at the Pearson School in my birthplace of Winsted, Connecticut. I’m pretty sure that my family was assembled to celebrate Father’s Day in June, 1984 – I can’t really give you the full details, but remember, that was thirty years ago, and a lot can slip from your mind since then. My father was still very active for a man of his age (he was 59 years old at that time) – and though I strongly disapproved of some of his vices, I still revered him greatly, partly because of his reputation as a respected teacher and former town selectman (not to mention a World War II veteran).
No one could have imagined that only a few weeks after that Father’s Day in 1984, my father’s life – not to mention those of my family members (including myself), as well as our relatives and friends – would change dramatically. I was an eyewitness to what happened to my father on July 2, 1984 (my mother’s 57th birthday) – and even today, what happened then remains heartbreaking, and not just for my family. The next ten years would be very difficult for my family, as well as everyone who loved and respected my father – his failing health as a result of suffering a stroke reminded us that my father was, in many ways, no longer the man that he was when my brothers and I (and our friends) were growing up. At the same time, we also knew that our parents’ generation was starting to slowly fade away, a fact that we knew couldn’t be ignored – and one that we still can’t ignore, considering the present situation concerning my mother that my family is now facing.
If the last ten years of my father’s life was, in many respects, mind-numbing – it was sweetened by my brothers Bill and Joseph’s weddings, and my father being surrounded by three of his five grandchildren. Not to mention the yearly trips to Berlin, New Hampshire, my father’s birthplace, where he got to see many of his siblings who were an important part of his life – something that we’ve always appreciated, even when Father was nearing the end of his life.
Much has changed in my family’s lives in the past few years – including the fact that a lot of links to its history have long since vanished, with more due to occur in the near future. I know as my family and friends faces the future, we won’t forget how the past – including our relationship with Father – has helped to shape our present lives, as well as providing a blueprint for guiding our lives forward.
John Lavernoich is the author of three books (including the first two Chameleons, Inc. novels), as well as various non-fiction articles and short stories that have been published in print and on the Internet. To learn more about Mr. Lavernoich and his writing achievements, please visit his official website (http://johnlavernoich.weebly.com), as well as his pages on Facebook (http://www.facebook.com/john.lavernoich?ref=name), MySpace (http://www.myspace.com/jlavernoich), Twitter (http://twitter.com/JLav65), LinkedIn (http://www.linkedin.com/pub/john-lavernoich/7a/b21/237), and WordPress (https://johnlav.wordpress.com). Mr. Lavernoich also maintains his own video channel on YouTube‘s website (http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJz1MX0XKIPm8nSAccTNMjA), his own Author Spotlight page on Lulu Books‘ website (http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/Highroad), his own Profile Page on Amazon Studios‘ website (http://studios.amazon.com/users/59488), and his Chameleons, Inc. and Pictures Shop websites via Weebly (Chameleons, Inc. website: http://chameleonsinc.weebly.com; Pictures Shop website: http://jlpicturesshop.weebly.com). Mr. Lavernoich’s current creative projects include writing the script for the comic book limited series The Janus Terror.
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